We both think "the contrasts" are often interesting, and often a super turn on. Not everything is for everybody, and we are objective to that, but for us... "the contrast" is empowering for both whether it is black on white or the opposite as you see here. The situation was... he was/is still my hubby's good buddy, a senior mechanic who took good care of hubby's plane, and the entire wing. He got orders for a nasty place in the Middle East. He had no one to give him a nice send off, and so... we invited him to spend his last week end on the island with us. I am happy to say he is still a cool friend and he emails both us regularly.