69 – a sexual position allowing mutual oral stimulation of the genitals; the position looks like the number 69

420 Friendly - refers to marijuana use

AC/DC - Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity (see BI; BISEXUAL)ADULT Euphemism for pornographic.

ALL CULTURES - Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)

AMERICAN CULTURE - Man on top, the missionary position.

ANAL SEX - Anal intercourse (see GREEK; GREEK CULTURE)

ANALINGUS - Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.

ANDROGYNOUS: having the characteristics of both male and female.

ANIMAL TRAINING - Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women (see BESTIALITY)ARTS Euphemism for fetishes (see CULTURE)

BACK SCUTTLE – Anal intercourse

BAREBACK – Having sexual intercourse without protection

B&D or B/D - Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)

BBW - Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are..

BBC - Big Black Cock

BLC - Big Latin Cock

BWC - Big White Cock

BDSM - A combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power.


BISEXUAL - Versatile (see AC/DC)

BI-CURIOUS - A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.

BIZARRE - Unusual sexual desires

BONDAGE - A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."

BOX MUNCHING – Girl-on-girl oral action

BUKKAKE - a Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male.

BUSH – pubic hair; usually refers to a woman’s pubic hair.

CAMEL TOE – The outline of a vagina revealed through tight clothing.

CAN ENTERTAIN - Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.

CAN TRAVEL - Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.

CANING - A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.

CHEATING - Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.

CLEAN - Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.

CLOSED DOOR - Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.

CLOSET SWINGER - A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)

CREAMPIE - When a male(s) ejaculates inside his partner's vagina or anus without the use of a condom.

COUGAR - Name for an older woman who is seen to be aggressive in pursuing men.

COUPLE - In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitation), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.

CROSSDRESSER: someone who enjoys wearing clothing and accessories intended for a different gender role. This can be done for both sexual and non-sexual reasons

CUCKOLD - While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.

CULTURE - Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.

CUM LOVER - A person who enjoys the taste of sperm.

CUNNILINGUS - Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)

DEEP THROAT – Taking the entire length of an erect penis down your throat during fellatio.

D/D FREE - Drug/Disease Free, meaning that a couple/person is is STD free and does not use drugs.

DILDO - An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.

DIRECTOR - The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.

DISCIPLINE - Sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.

DISCREET OR DISCRETION - Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.

DOCILE - Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).

DOGGING - Dogging is a British euphemism for engaging in sexual acts in a semi-public place (typically a secluded car park or a movie theater) or watching others doing so. Frequently, there are more than two participants; group sex and sometimes even gang bangs can occur. Observation is encouraged, thus voyeurism and exhibitionism are closely associated with dogging. The two sets of people involved often meet either randomly or (increasingly) arrange to meet-up beforehand over the internet.

DOMESTIC TRAINING - Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.

DOUBLE PENETRATION - Being penetrated in two orifices at the same time (usually refers to anal and vaginal, may also include oral) DP Double Penetration

DOMINANT - A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.

ENGLISH CULTURE - :Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning


EUROPEAN STYLE CLUB - One that requires clothing to be removed (sometimes after a certain time of night).

EXHIBITIONIST - Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.

FELLATIO - Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.

FETISH - Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.

FFM or FMF - Threesome involving two women and one man (see THREESOME)

FISTING – Inserting the entire fist into the anus or vagina. Also called fist fuck.

FLAGELLATION - Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.

FRENCH CULTURE - Oral-genital sexual activity (see FELLATIO; CUNNILINGUS)

FULL SWAP - Two couples exchanging partners for sexual intercourse (see SOFT SWAP)

FUN AND GAMES - Euphemism for sexual activity.

GANGBANG – Having sex with many different men in rapid succession.

GAY - A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.

GBM - Gay Black Male

GENEROUS - Refers to money for sex.

GLORY HOLE – A hole in the wall where you insert your penis and someone on the other side will perform oral sex on you

GOLDEN SHOWER - Refers to urine play (see WATERSPORTS)

GREEK CULTURE - Anal-penile intercourse

GROUP ROOM - Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).

GROUP SEX - Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.

GWM - Gay White Male

HARD CORE - A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.


HEAD - Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see FRENCH CULTURE; FELLATIO; CUNNILINGUS).

HETEROSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.

HOMOSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)

HORNY - Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.

HUNG - Refers to a man with a large penis.

HWP - Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.

INDOOR - Swinging activities in general


INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP - Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.

IR - Interracial

IRL - In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat

ISO - In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female

LBGT: Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay, transgender. An overarching term for anyone outside gender norms

LEATHER - A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.

LESBIAN - A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY; HOMOSEXUAL)

LTR - Long Term Relationship

M - Male

MARITAL AIDS - Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.

MASOCHISM - Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.

MASTER/SLAVE - Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D; BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)

MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM - Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).

MBC - Married Black Couple

MBiC - Married Bisexual Couple

MEET FOR PLEASURE - Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.

MENAGE A TROIS - Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)

MFM or MMF - Threesome involving two men and one woman (see THREESOME)

MILF - "Mom I'd Like to Fuck" - used to refer to older women that are attractive

MORESOMES - More than three people in a swinging interaction.

NEWCOMERS - New people in swinging; First-timers.

NONSMOKER - Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

OFF-PREMISE - No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.

ON-PREMISE - A club where sexual play is allowed. Private and Public rooms are usually provided for play.


OPEN RELATIONSHIP - A relationship in which participants are free to take other partners; may or may not be a poly amorous couple; may or may not be a swinging couple. If the couple is married they may describe themselves as having an open marriage.

OPEN SWINGING - A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.


ORGY - Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.

PARTY - Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.

PARTY CLOTHES - Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.

PARTY HOUSE - (Western US) A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.

PASSIVE - Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)

PEARL NECKLACE – Ejaculating on a woman’s chest.

PHOTO - Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.

PHOTOGRAPHY - Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.

PLAYDAR - That internal feeling you get that another couple may also be swingers (think Gaydar for swingers).

POLYAMORY - A love relationship involving more than 2 people.

PRO - Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escort.

QUEEF – When air comes out of a vagina and it sounds like a fart. Also called pussy fart.

QUEEN OF SPADES - Symbol used with a bracelet, anklet, collar, tattoo or temporary tattoo worn by married white women to let potential black lovers know she is available for sex with all black men (also refer as black bull). The women are usually in a swinger relationship, have sexual preference for black men and engages in sex with the permission of her husband. The term is also used for single white women that only date black men.

RECREATIONAL SWINGER - A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.

RESTRAINT - Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.

ROMAN - Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)

ROMAN CULTURE - Sexual orgies

RUBBER - Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.

SAFE - Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.

S.A.S.E. - Self-addressed stamped envelope.

SBF - Single Black Female

SBiF - Single Bisexual Female

SBM - Single Black Male

SGL - Single(see SINGLE)

S&M or S/M - Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM; MASOCHISM; BDSM)

SCAT - refers to the use of excrement/fecal matter.

SINGLE - A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.

SHEMALE: a sexualized term popularized in pornography for a transgender woman who has not had surgery. Often considered highly offensive. Also she-male.

Slut Wife - A married woman who engages in sex with men other than her husband to fulfill her sexual needs or for her husbands enjoyment.

SNOWBALLING – A sex game during which semen is collected and passed from one mouth to another

SNOWBLOWING – Kissing your lover (usually after their ejaculation) with their semen still in your mouth

SOCIAL - A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.

SOCIAL SWING CLUB - A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.

SODOMY - Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.

SOFT SWINGERS - Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.

SOFT SWAP - Two couples exchanging partners for certain types of sexual activity (defined by the couples involved); if intercourse takes place it is only between primary partners (see FULL SWAP)

SOFT SWINGING - The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).

SPILL MY T: to have your identity divulged by someone: "Someone I used to work with spilled my T at my new job."

SQUIRT – Female ejaculation

SRS - Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).

SSW - Sub Slut Wife

STD - Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem. STR or STR8 (see STRAIGHT)

STRAIGHT - Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.

SUBMISSIVE - Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive)

SWALLOW – Swallowing semen after your lover ejaculates in your mouth.

SWAPPING - Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. (see SOFT SWAP; FULL SWAP)

SWEDISH CULTURE - Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another

SWF - Single White Female

SWM - Single White Male

SWINGER - A married person who enjoys swapping spouses with another married couple.

SWINGING - An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.

SWINGING LIFESTYLE - Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.

SWINGING MARRIAGE - Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.

SWM - Single White Male

TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM - The act of someone (him or her) willingly making a sacrifice for the benefit of others.

TAN - Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus (AIDS)

TEA BAGGING – Placing your testicles into your lover’s mouth or onto their face.

THREESOME - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois)

TICKET - A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.

TOSS A SALAD – Licking your lover’s anus

TOYS - Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)

TRANSGENDERED - Individual who does not identify with his/her biologically assigned sex. Not related to sexual orientation.

TRANSPHILE: someone attracted to transgender women.

TRANSPHILIA: attraction to transgender people.

TRANSSEXUAL - Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion TRANSVESTITE person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.


TRIAD - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.

TRIOLISM - Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)

TUBAL LIGATION - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the Fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.

UNICORN - The term Unicorns represent a single female, bisexual or straight. Who is willing to have sex with a couple. To some, that seems mythical. Hence, the name/title.

UTOPIAN SWINGER - A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.

VANILLA - Typically refers to non-swingers (ie. "vanilla friends")

VASECTOMY - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.

VERSATILE - Bisexual. (see AC/DC)

VIBRATOR - Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.

VOLUPTUOUS - Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.

VOYEUR - A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.

VOYEURISM - Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.

VWE - Very well endowed

WATERSPORTS - Typically refers to urine play.(see GOLDEN SHOWER)

WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS - Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.

ZELOPHILE - A person who is sexually excited by their partner`s jealousy.