We are still figuring that all out. Married for enough to say years and very much in love. We are partners in everything blah blah blah. To be honest, we are very happy and have a minimal number of disagreements.
We are however very busy in life and all it's chores, so we like to unwind We unwind hard, we unwind soft, we are sensual and aggressive. No rhyme or reason, just or consistency role. Early years you spice up with fantasy. You start out bringing in guys or girls from movies or tv shows, then after a year of that it becomes some random stranger at a sporting event, or even the grocery store. As time goes on it is a group of men on lunch who cat called as she walked past all got to have their way with her that night. His equipment sometimes could use another hammer or even a bulldozer to offer that kind of variety and stamina. They could both use some training in satisfying the opposite sex. Getting really good here lately. We had a nasty mean woman at a kiddos sporting event who was just treating the refs bad and they were doing well. Angry Woman was hot and wife said if she wasn't such a "$*@&<" I would love to mash her face in my.... That night, she told him exactly how she wanted her taught to be a more positive person. She had prrrecorded how she wanted angry woman trained and played it behind husband.
Some role playing just comes up too often not to just make it happen and then fuck a 100 times after that talking about it. Being in love also means being transparent comes with the whole truth and nothing bit the truth. Not sure if that is Good or just Naughty. However validating our lover's various desires are the next logical step, but we are not jumping in head first.